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March 6th, 2013 | Posted by J in Lovesss | Personal - (0 Comments)
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Ever since I started working for my current employer, I have become busier and busier everyday. Not that I’m complaining, running online campaigns gives me a certain kind of thrill especially if the results come out good. A non-busy day is rare these days.

Today at the office was no different from other days. Until my brother, who mans our store in Makati, interrupted me in the middle of something important. At first I thought it was something urgent that he had to suddenly bombard me with private messages on Facebook. It wasn’t urgent, but it was definitely attention-grabbing!

My brother messaged me out of the blue to tell me the story of one of his walk-in customers at the store. Usually, the stories he would tell me are negative ones: grumpy and annoying customers, spoiled demanding kids, parents who would haggle incessantly, etc. But this time, it was about a guy who has been a long-time customer.

According to my brother, this guy would come almost every week to buy a pack of Instax wide films from him. He would come to the store with a smile on his face, pay for his order, and leave. He doesn’t haggle or make any fuss. For a long time, my brother thought that this guy was someone’s driver or personal assistant since he doesn’t look like he’s someone who’s fond of instant photography. Not to belittle the guy, but this was my brother’s impression of him brought about by his “looks” because it was actually a common thing that employers or amo would just ask their help (usually yayas or drivers) to go to our store to get them whatever (films, cameras, accessories). I’ve encountered this a lot of times, too. Today when this particular Manong dropped by the store again to make his usual purchase, my brother decided to strike up a conversation with him. He asked the guy where he’s from and who usually uses up the pack of film he buys from the store, expecting the guy to say that he has an employer who’s just crazy addicted to Instax. But he was surprised to hear when the guy said it was actually him who uses the films. How and why? It turns out, this guy owns an old Instax wide camera (perhaps an Instax 200) and every night he roams the KTVs and clubs in the Makati red light district and takes Instax pictures of strangers, mostly foreigners. He buys the films from our store since he just lives close by, then he sells the photos he takes at 120php each. It suddenly occured to my brother why the guy usually pays him with loose change, mostly 5-peso coins! This is the guy’s “sideline” (or maybe his only source of income, it wasn’t clear) to support his children.

There are two challenges that Manong faces in his photography raket: 1) his camera’s batteries run out quickly, so he still has to set aside budget for battery replacement; and 2) not all the photos he’s taking are being bought by his “subjects,” so each wasted print is, of course, considered a loss.

But assuming he is able to sell all his 20 prints, I imagine Manong earns roughly 1,300php for every pack of film he consumes. Definitely not bad for a sideline!

My brother told me that he was actually welling up when Manong was telling him his mala-MMK life story, and while reading my brother’s messages on Facebook, so was I! I guess we were deeply moved because we feel that somehow we are able to help this customer of ours make a living out of the films we sell. We decided that the next time he comes back, we’ll surely give him big discounts and freebies!

I told this story to my boss over lunch today and we both got rebuked because our usual financial concerns revolve around how payday is still a long way off, or how we’re both wishing to have a car for easier transport. Hehehe. Nakakahiya ang mababaw na concerns namin!

I have to admit, I am always annoyed when random photographers bother me at weddings/graduations/what-have-yous by selling me printed pictures of myself. But imagining Manong doing an honest living out of his trusty Instax camera only brings a smile to my face. I wish him well in his “business endeavor.” :)

Manong‘s story, of course, made it to my daily Happiness Project! <3

The Happiness Project

February 19th, 2013 | Posted by J in Books | Personal - (10 Comments)
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“What you do every day matters more than what you do every once in a while.”

Writing in a journal religiously was never my strong suit. Sure, I have accumulated journals from when I was a kid that I’ve been keeping somewhere (for my eyes only) but I never ever use them up. It’s a major achievement if I at least reach mid notebook!

So imagine my face lighting up when my boss gave me this super cool gift, The Happiness Project, for my birthday! One-sentence journal? It’s perfect! And I love that it’s a 5-year record of daily happy moments, so when I update next year (and the year after that, after that, and after that), I will be able to see what I’ve written exactly a year ago.

The Happiness Project

My boss also lent me the The Happiness Project guide but I haven’t started reading it yet. Self-help books usually make me go Zzzzz. Let’s see if this one doesn’t.

On my new simplistic journal, the challenge is to write down one sentence reflecting what made me happy in a day. Why is this a “challenge”, you ask? I’ve been doing this daily exercise since I got the journal and to be honest, it’s hard thinking about something that made me happy on days that were CRAPPY (ALL CAPS for emphasis). If you know me personally (and partly, through this blog) you know that I’m always a jolly, glass-is-half-full kind of person. But the truth is, I have my own episodes that make me go “FML“, “KILL ME NOW“, “WTF, WORLD?!” Yep, I’ve been having a lot of those, especially lately. I try to contradict those thoughts with my mantra: “In everything, give thanks.“, “This too shall pass.“, “Someday this would all make sense.” which I say to myself as I utter a tearful prayer. But I know most people would be able to relate when I say, it’s not always easy under-reacting to life’s negative circumstances. Person only!! (Tao lang.)

On a perfectly good day, it would be a breeze writing in the journal, but on a day that I want to question everything, I will force myself to be like Pat Peoples who always tries to look for the silver lining in every cloud. Whether it’s as simple as a fine weather, a successful online campaign at work, a good old-fashioned belly laugh with friends, a pleasant workout, a day out with family (which rarely happens nowadays), or a good book or movie — these should always beat the bad moments and make their way to my one-sentence happiness journal. Now THAT is the challenge.

There is a daily happiness quote on every page of the journal and here are some that caught my attention thus far:

Aim to live so that you don’t look back, at the end of your life or after some great catastrophe, and think, “How happy I was then, if only I’d realized it!”

Happiness is contagious. Happy people make people happy.

Happiness, not in another place but this place, not for another hour but this hour. -Walt Whitman

Challenging yourself to learn something new brings happiness because it allows you to expand your self-definition. You become larger.

“Ah, but a man’s reach should exceed his grasp, or what’s a heaven for?” -Robert Browning

I’m looking forward to finishing this Happiness Project in 5 years! Assuming I don’t lose the journal and/or if I’m still around then. :)

Twenty Thirteen

January 5th, 2013 | Posted by J in Personal - (8 Comments)
I never ever say the F word, but it's just sounds so fitting lol

I never ever say the F word, but this just sounds so fitting! lol

I’ve been reading a lot of blog posts on saying goodbye to the previous year and welcoming the new so I thought of doing one myself. But I can’t seem to face 2013 positively the same way everybody else does. On Twitter and Facebook alone, there are so many Confucius-like encouragements on how to deal with this new year. Here are some:

4 things to do today: delete your past, reset your present, download your future and update your life.

Today, is the first blank page of a 365 page book. Write a good one.

Guard your heart. Don’t go back to your vomit. Find your lover.

Out with the old, in with the new.

This 2013, choose to be happy.

Here’s to a positive 2013, filled with prosperity and possibility. Go after it. Claim it.

I admire these people for being so brave right at this moment of their lives. I would give anything to be like them right now. Because the truth is, I feel so scared when I think about 2013. You know, the achy-weird-feeling-in-the-pit-of-your-stomach-that-sends-you-to-the-loo-every-so-often kind of scared. Haha! No, really. My semi anxiety attacks are causing me to cry involuntarily in random places at random times!

I wish I was facing 2013 with much optimism like everybody else, but taking it one day at a time is all I can do to keep it together. However, I am going to try to do something about my situation. I am the type to list, list, list everything! From daily, weekly, monthly tasks, I try to get them all down. And I’ve proven that it does help me focus on achieving my goals. So right now, I’m going to attempt to list down my faith goals for 2013, with the hope that I’ll be able to look at these goals straight in the eye and not get too scared. By the end of 2013, I will go back to this list and see how well/awful I’ve done.

These are not “Faith” goals, in the truest sense of the word. I believe these are Life Goals. But seeing that my fingers are shaking even as I type this post, and the fact that I’m not able to achieve anything in my life by my own strength, I will boldly call these Faith Goals.

One thing you should know about me is, I have never planned out my life in a long term manner. Two years is already a long time for me to identify anything that can possibly happen. One year still seems improbable, but it’s at least short enough to get a faint glimpse of the light at the end of the tunnel. So here are my 2013 Faith Goals in no particular order:

1) Business

In all fairness to my brother, my mother, my sister-in-law and me – amateurs as we are – we were able to nurture our business from January to December of 2012, and we have really seen the progress we made. If I achieved one thing in 2012, it would be this (Woohoo! I actually achieved something!). So for 2013, I wish for our business to grow bigger rather than smaller. Yes, it could shrink if handled improperly.

2) Finances

I wish to be debt-free before the year ends. Currently, I’m still settling my credit card bills which have accumulated due to all my travels, gadgets, shopping, etc from the past years. From five credit cards at the start of 2012, I’m down to the last two. My goal is to pay off both, and just keep one credit card. Credit cards are EVIL, I tell you! Okay, they’re not, I just became careless at one point or another. :p

My other goal under this category is to start rebuilding my savings. I don’t expect it to be a lot since I’m still paying for debts, amortization, and other expenses, but I should at least have some saved already.

3) Career

By the end of the year, I should know if I’m going to continue working for my current employer or decide otherwise. This goal is inversely related to #1, because as the business grows and demand for more hands-on attention increases, then should an important decision regarding my employment be made. This is a bit hard for me to think about now, because I’ve really grown to love this job.

But if I’m still to carry on this career path, by end of this year, I would want to see that I am a lot better at my job than I am now. I want to have gained my superiors and colleagues’ confidence more. I want to have helped out the company earn more via their online channel (which is what my job is all about). And if they’re feeling generous, I’d also want a raise. Haha! I mean, who doesn’t??

4) Personal Life

Right now, I have no idea as to what life has in store for me. Will I get married soon? Will I grow old alone (Wag naman sana, pero bahala ka na Lord!) Am I permanent here in Manila? O pwede rin, Will I die this year? (Hey, it’s not morbid, it’s reality!) So my goal is, by the end of this year, I SHOULD know where my life is headed, or at least have a clue. I’ll be turning 29 this year (Waaah! Where have all my years gone??) and I really really would want to see some clarity on this hazy path I’m taking.

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So this post will serve as my reminder to watch out for possible transitions and life-changing decisions this 2013. I say this, but it doesn’t mean that I’m FEARLESS about it. Because, to be honest, even as I’m typing these last few sentences, my fingers are still quivering and heart is beating fast. That’s how FEARFUL I am.

Excuse me as I make a dash for the ladies’ room again!